In a few hours, I will be ringing in 2015 with a toast and a firm commitment to my one and only New Year’s Resolution: With the New Year, I solemnly swear not to make any New Year’s Resolutions.
I know what you’re thinking: Wow, that JC’s an overachiever!
Seriously, I think that New Year’s Resolutions are a waste of time. True goals are not a waste of time, but the big rush to make resolutions simply because it’s a new year practically guarantees failure.
I don’t have any hard evidence for this, just experience and intuition, and my experience and intuition tell me that people are more likely to stick to goals when they set them on their own initiative, for personal reasons. The simple marking of another 365 days gone by is not enough of a personal incentive for most people plus there’s too much pressure from others to stick to a goal that means nothing.
To lose weight, a person needs to have reached a breaking point with how he or she feels and how he or she looks.
Same with smoking. A person can’t quit smoking just because everyone says he or she has to make a New Year’s Resolution to quit. A smoker needs to reach his or her own breaking point with the habit.
Obviously, I am not endorsing bad eating habits or smoking. Rather, I am saying that each of us must reach our own breaking points, set our own goals, and learn to make our own significant resolutions.
Something Else to Consider
A large percentage of New Year’s Resolutions can be classified as “not going to do this or that anymore”, or the “quitting this or that from now on”. It’s pretty rare to hear people talk about all the amazing things they are going to enjoy in the new year such as…
*getting a monthly massage;
*visiting museums or theaters more often;
*doing volunteer work; and/or
*spending more quality time with loved ones.
By the way, all of the above works wonders for Fibromyalgia. Truly each activity does, even volunteering. That’s because volunteering puts the focus off Fibromyalgia for a bit and onto to someone else’s needs. It promotes dealing and healing.
So if you insist on doing New Year’s Resolutions, frame them in a positive way. Instead of saying, “I am not going to eat so much bad food!” say “I am going to enjoy more healthy organic foods!” Instead of saying, “I am not going to smoke anymore!” say” I am going to be nicer to my lungs.”
This positive spin helps no matter if a New Year’s Resolution or a goal set at another time in 2015.
It’s great to set goals all year. Just don’t feel pressured to do it tonight.
And with that, I wish you all a Happy New Year. Honored to have you in the FibroDaily family, and I look forward to providing more helpful articles and tips.
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